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Lecture

The Revolution is My Personfriend: Dismantling the Romance Myth with Dean Spade

The cultural mythology around romance that many of us have been immersed in all our lives is a brutal and damaging one. This myth is reproduced by and backs up corporate media, diet and beauty industries, and the legal marriage system that determines things like who has healthcare, housing, and immigration status. Interpersonally, the romance myth is used to justify isolation, harmful behavior, and disposability. Many of us have experienced, in social movement and arts spaces, families and friend groups, people acting their worst when it comes to romantic and sexual connections. Many of us can identify that we show our worst behavior to people when we are under the influences of this myth. This lecture will offer a chance to unpack the romance myth's messages and harms, and to imagine alternative ways to relate to each other grounded in radical values of mutuality, accountability, community care, generosity, and abundance.
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